It was a little easier than i thought.
1. I simply drilled out the old rivet until the broken actuator came loose.
2. I disconnected the wiring from the old actuator, and pulled the plug out of the door and tested the new one.
3. I unscrewed the window guide, which is held in by some sort of arm with a bolt, and up top it has a slide thing. (not sure what theyre called).
4. I pulled the actuator towards the hood of the car, up and out, and the rod came with it.
5. I used some super glue to glue a nut to the mounting hardware on the actuator, between the unit and the mount. I let it dry.
6. I slid the new actuator rod into place where the old one was.
7. I used a round headed bolt and self-locking screw to attach the new actuator.
8. I tested it, replaced the window guide and tested the window, then replaced the door panel. Simple as that! Theres no need to waste your time with an enormous rivet, and if it goes bad again, you can just unscrew it rather than destroy a rivet that you would have to repurchase.