Well, we got it done.
Ended up taking it into the shop where I work. One of the guys there did most of the work, I helped a bit...but he did most of it. I never would have been able to do this in my driveway. The lift air air tools made a HUGE difference.
We ended up trying to remove the strut to get the bolt on the front side out, because there was not enough room to get it out.
The bottom bolt is STUCK in the comtrol arm, we tried but could not get it out (damn salty New England roads). Instead of removing it completely, we just took the nuts off the top of the strut and were able to compress the strut to get the bolts out.
It was tough getting the ball joint out of the top of the spindle, it was VERY rusty inside although it looked pretty clean on the outside.
I am glad that this is done now, BUT, I worry that we might have disturbed something because I drove the car for about 1/2 hour to get home, let it sit for another 1/2 hour, and the suspension sunk.
I know the suspension leaks, but I was hoping to get by for a while longer.
This job took about an hour to do. I am sure it would be faster the second time...knowing how to do it.