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Friction between in-laws at center of Schiavo fight
Associated Press
NEW YORK – Incompatible in-laws have long been a staple for gag writers, but the Terri Schiavo case is a reminder that such friction often has wrenchingly unfunny consequences – bitter estrangement, all-out legal battles, even violence.
Indeed, it is the conflict between Terri Schiavo’s husband, Michael, and her parents that brought the case to national attention. If the parents agreed with his efforts to remove the brain-damaged woman’s feeding tube, it is unlikely that right-to-life activists and politicians would have mobilized regardless of other circumstances.
“There have been similar cases where people have been disconnected, but because they didn’t reach the same level of in-law tensions, they didn’t evoke such strong feelings,” said Steven Mintz, a University of Houston professor specializing in the history of families.
“The subtext of the case is intergenerational tension,” Mintz said. “Parents are more invested than ever in their children, even when they’re grown.”
Normally, U.S. law is clear cut – however distressed in-laws might be over developments within their child’s marriage, they have no special right to intervene.
“This area of law has been long established,” said Phyllis Bossin, a Cincinnati attorney who formerly chaired the American Bar Association’s Family Law Section. “Once you get married, your spouse gets a whole lot of legal rights, including the right to make medical decisions for you.”
Atlanta divorce lawyer John Mayoue noted that in-laws might disagree passionately with decisions affecting their married children or even their grandchildren – should a teenage granddaughter have breast-augmentation surgery? Should a Jewish grandson have a bar mitzvah?
“But would we want them to be able to go to court or petition Congress to get their way?” Mayoue asked. “Where would you draw the line?”
Mayoue said he found it ironic that conservative activists who promote the sanctity of marriage when opposing same-sex unions have – in the Schiavo case – sided with in-laws in what is legally a spouse’s right.
“The conservatives are getting involved in tearing down the foundation of something they say needs protection,” Mayoue said.
Conservative leaders, however, contend that Michael Schiavo undermined the sanctity of his marriage by cohabiting and raising children with another woman, while refusing to divorce Terri and place her in the guardianship of her parents.
“We support the nuclear family – that’s the paramount family,” said Carrie Gordon Earll, a bioethics analyst for Focus on the Family.
Tony Perkins, president of the conservative Family Research Council, said his normal inclination to oppose any infringement on the husband-wife relationship was altered in this case by Michael Schiavo’s cohabitation and the absence of a living will written by Terri Schiavo.
“I’m not usually in favor of government intrusion,” Perkins said. “But ultimately the government does have a right to protect people.”
Associated Press
NEW YORK – Incompatible in-laws have long been a staple for gag writers, but the Terri Schiavo case is a reminder that such friction often has wrenchingly unfunny consequences – bitter estrangement, all-out legal battles, even violence.
Indeed, it is the conflict between Terri Schiavo’s husband, Michael, and her parents that brought the case to national attention. If the parents agreed with his efforts to remove the brain-damaged woman’s feeding tube, it is unlikely that right-to-life activists and politicians would have mobilized regardless of other circumstances.
“There have been similar cases where people have been disconnected, but because they didn’t reach the same level of in-law tensions, they didn’t evoke such strong feelings,” said Steven Mintz, a University of Houston professor specializing in the history of families.
“The subtext of the case is intergenerational tension,” Mintz said. “Parents are more invested than ever in their children, even when they’re grown.”
Normally, U.S. law is clear cut – however distressed in-laws might be over developments within their child’s marriage, they have no special right to intervene.
“This area of law has been long established,” said Phyllis Bossin, a Cincinnati attorney who formerly chaired the American Bar Association’s Family Law Section. “Once you get married, your spouse gets a whole lot of legal rights, including the right to make medical decisions for you.”
Atlanta divorce lawyer John Mayoue noted that in-laws might disagree passionately with decisions affecting their married children or even their grandchildren – should a teenage granddaughter have breast-augmentation surgery? Should a Jewish grandson have a bar mitzvah?
“But would we want them to be able to go to court or petition Congress to get their way?” Mayoue asked. “Where would you draw the line?”
Mayoue said he found it ironic that conservative activists who promote the sanctity of marriage when opposing same-sex unions have – in the Schiavo case – sided with in-laws in what is legally a spouse’s right.
“The conservatives are getting involved in tearing down the foundation of something they say needs protection,” Mayoue said.
Conservative leaders, however, contend that Michael Schiavo undermined the sanctity of his marriage by cohabiting and raising children with another woman, while refusing to divorce Terri and place her in the guardianship of her parents.
“We support the nuclear family – that’s the paramount family,” said Carrie Gordon Earll, a bioethics analyst for Focus on the Family.
Tony Perkins, president of the conservative Family Research Council, said his normal inclination to oppose any infringement on the husband-wife relationship was altered in this case by Michael Schiavo’s cohabitation and the absence of a living will written by Terri Schiavo.
“I’m not usually in favor of government intrusion,” Perkins said. “But ultimately the government does have a right to protect people.”